Brian Croft answers:

As a pastor, I have found a common link that surrounds the need for marriage counseling, often times revolves around this simple problem: Too much focus on the small, petty, annoyances that come with our spouse. Even in Christian marriage, bitterness comes when we do not view our spouse with gracious, forgiving eyes, but with harsh expectations. If this describes you or someone you are trying to counsel, take heart, for I have discovered a wonderful antidote when especially young married couples lose sight of the gratefulness all Christians should have in the joy of Christian marriage and instead try to nitpick their spouse with an ungrateful heart.

“Go visit widows and widowers in your church and ask them about their spouse. Specifically what they loved about them most and what they miss about them now that they are gone.”

You can read Brian’s whole post here.