A recent article in The Telegraph highlights the tragic symptoms of a disease that’s infecting our worldwide culture. The piece focuses mainly on teenagers and the dysfunction that has become normative in their lifestyles as a result of consuming porn.
In light of this, how can parents raise children in a pornified culture? Here are eight suggestions for this ever-increasing problem.
1. Aim to give our kids a huge view of God who is gloriously delightful.
We can’t simply tell our kids to stop doing certain behaviors; we must also teach them to delight in what God has made. I’ve been trying to make a discipline of pointing out all the good in God’s creation. A few weeks ago it was a blessing to watch my two older kids spend hours picking the wild raspberries that grow in their grandma and grandpa’s huge backyard. They need to be reminded of God’s goodness in giving us such amazing created blessings, like raspberries. If we’re not careful, we can become functional gnostics (flesh and matter are bad; only what’s “spiritual” has value) in our communication about sexual ethics with our kids. A helpful verse for them to memorize is 1 Timothy 4:4.
In short, I want my kids to know that sexual perversion is the height of idolatry (Rom. 1), but also that sexual integrity is the height of beauty. This demands we talk about it, probably more than we’re comfortable with or experienced when we were kids. But it’s a new world, and a new world demands new communication to train our children.