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The Center for Christian Family Ministry at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary

Questions for a Potential Pastor’s Wife

by Derek Brown – Jun 21

Is your wife ready to be a pastor’s wife?  How carefully you consider this question may determine the long-term health of your marriage and the course of your entire ministry.  Bob Johnson, writing at 9 Marks, helps men navigate this important matter, offering some words of exhortation while also asking few important questions.

Before you pursue the office of pastor, you know that you need to be ready. But have you asked whether your wife is ready?

Formally, I don’t believe there should be extra expectations placed on a pastor’s wife. There is no office of “pastor’s wife” in the Bible. But practically, being married to a pastor is a tough role. Does your wife have what it takes? Is she up for it?

Those are the questions I want to help you ask in this article.

It is critical for you to ask such questions. Men preparing for the ministry can easily become blindly ambitious, even idolatrous, without realizing it. When that happens, we risk turning our wives into means to making much of ourselves. If they get in the way of our goals, we run them over. It’s therefore critical, as I say, to stop, loosen our grip on the ministry goals, and give real honest thought to our wives.

You can read the whole article here.